I first learned of the “Total Compensation” phrase years ago when I worked in the corporate world. We used it to describe the various ways an employee was compensated in addition to their salary. We were attempting to show employees that all the other stuff: vacations, health benefits, insurance, training were all part of compensation.
A few days ago I heard a radio guest (never got her name) say that when she focused on being grateful and all her blessings she felt happy and when she focused on the lack in her life compared to others she felt down. I have experienced the same thing, I don’t think it’s uncommon. I began to connect this idea with the Total Compensation idea. When I view my life in it’s entirety and notice all the blessings instead of picking apart one area or another that I may be dissatisfied with, I feel more at peace.
I also have occasional fantasies of just having one or two main focuses in my life instead of the several I have. I imagine being just a mom or just an executive coach or just a horseback rider or just a fiber artist, etc. Wouldn’t life be grand with a singular focus! While this would be fun for awhile, I then remind myself of who I am and how easily I can get bored or obsessed with one thing. It’s all these different things, I tell myself, the total package – that makes life dynamic and challenging.
So when I contemplate the “Total Compensation” in my life I am filled with gratitude and happiness. I’ll take those feelings over envy and self-pity any day!
Speaking of blessings, I asked my 9 year old son if he could make dinner so I’d have time to ride after work and this is what I walked in the kitchen to find; lot’s of veggies and lots of dishes!